How do you feel when your man is ready and waiting for you in the car while you are still indoors getting ready? He doesn’t have to be hooting the horn for me to feel rushed. I am likely to forget something, no matter how patient he is in his waiting.
It’s the same with sex. If I know he is dying to orgasm rather than enjoy the journey with me, with or without an orgasm, then I prefer him to come first. I am usually thrilled to vicariously experience his sensations, knowing I’m partly responsible. Happy to have mine later, with or without him.
I would be less generous if he always got his pleasure, without any regard for mine, but then I probably would not be in that relationship for long.