Despite the negative connotations associated with masturbation, being either too sinful or too desperate for any self-respecting gal (or guy), anonymous surveys have shown that most of us masturbate, with or without guilt, and with varying frequency. I long ago decided my self-pleasure would be guilt free. I no longer make harsh judgement about “resorting to masturbation because I can’t seem to find a decent guy to have sex with”.
Neither do I let it reflect badly on the guy I’m with. I masturbate, not because he fails to please me, not because I have no other option, and certainly not because I am possessed by the devil! I do it simply because it is the most direct way of obtaining instant gratification that is completely harmless to myself or anyone else. It is harmless because I don’t let it affect my self esteem like it used to.
Also, just because I have masturbated does not make me any less horny for my man. I tell myself there is an abundance of orgasms to be had, with or without him, and there usually is. I suspect this may be different for guys due to their required down time (figuratively and literally speaking) after each orgasm. Any comments from the male readership?